Oh dear, I seem to be writing about how bad I have been feeling lately! It is not the case. I just have times when my confidence in the flow of the universe is dented, and I need a lift; something to help my positive thinking return.
Today, I was feeling rather low. I suddenly lost my connection with the universe, or with my angels who whisper to me and guide me. I felt like I was on my own and that everything was just an uphill struggle; that I would have to work harder and harder to make things work.
Just at the moment when I was thinking of giving up, I met a friend and her mother, both of whom are just on my wave-length. I blurted everything out and tried to explain how I was feeling; that although I trusted in the universe and angels, that my confidence was low and I just thought I was kidding myself thinking that things were going to work out.
I needed those pairs of ears to listen to myself; to sort out what I was thinking and to counter what I was saying as I was saying it! Sometimes it is alright to question; alright to look at things with a different perspective. And it is also alright to lean on your friends and use their wisdom to help you sort out problems.
Do you need a friend today? Pick up the phone. Send an email. Friends are like angels sent to help light the way before us. They give love unconditionally. They are non-judgemental and they are supremely loyal.
Thanks everyone!
Monday 20 October 2008
Wednesday 15 October 2008
Belief Busting
Beliefs are what everyone has ever said to us - really! Beliefs are so embedded in our psyche that often we are completely unaware of how much they inform and influence how we think, and therefore how we act and function in the world. There are many ways to look at our beliefs and assess their usefulness; whether they are constructive or destructive.
Fiona Harrold has written a book called, 'Be your own Life Coach'. It is a powerful, uplifting book which instills a cast-iron self-belief and indestructible confidence! It really has changed my life.
She includes an exercise about how to challenge negative beliefs; beliefs which are limiting.
Take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns: Positive and Negative. Then spend just 10 minutes brainstorming the beliefs you have about yourself and the world, putting them in the appropriate column. For instance, you may have a strong belief that all finance is bad (very topical! You might also have the belief that you are too fat/thin/tall/short/stupid/boring, and so on.
Look at the negative column when you have finished. Pick out the three most powerful beliefs. Now apply the following to each one. You are going to dis-empower it. Write down what first comes into your head.
1. How is this belief ridiculous?
2. Whom did this belief come from, and do you still hold them in the same regard? Do they still have the same power over you?
3. What is the short-term cost to you of believing this?
4. What is the long-term cost to you of believing this?
When you have picked over each belief, look at them again and write down the exact opposite. So, you could write, 'I lose weight easily, I am naturally slim' or 'My life is full of great opportunites and lovely surprises' or 'money flows easily into my bank account, too fast for me to spend it!'. Write these out on pieces of paper and stick them up in places you will look at often: near the kettle, by the kitchen sink, on the bathroom mirror, and so on.
Here is the homework! Every time you observe yourself thinking the old, limiting thought, replace it with the new empowering one. I found that when I first did this (and I have pieces of paper posted around my kitchen as things change!) my internal dialogue began to default to the new thoughts after only TWO WEEKS!
Try it and surprise yourself. If you know anything about 'The Secret' or quantum mechanics, you will know that the energy of your thoughts attracts the things that have the same energy. In other words, if you think positively, positive things will happen for you.
Please try this - it is like magic! I would be delighted to hear from you if you find it as amazing as I did.
Love and light to you
Fiona Harrold has written a book called, 'Be your own Life Coach'. It is a powerful, uplifting book which instills a cast-iron self-belief and indestructible confidence! It really has changed my life.
She includes an exercise about how to challenge negative beliefs; beliefs which are limiting.
Take a piece of paper and divide it into two columns: Positive and Negative. Then spend just 10 minutes brainstorming the beliefs you have about yourself and the world, putting them in the appropriate column. For instance, you may have a strong belief that all finance is bad (very topical! You might also have the belief that you are too fat/thin/tall/short/stupid/boring, and so on.
Look at the negative column when you have finished. Pick out the three most powerful beliefs. Now apply the following to each one. You are going to dis-empower it. Write down what first comes into your head.
1. How is this belief ridiculous?
2. Whom did this belief come from, and do you still hold them in the same regard? Do they still have the same power over you?
3. What is the short-term cost to you of believing this?
4. What is the long-term cost to you of believing this?
When you have picked over each belief, look at them again and write down the exact opposite. So, you could write, 'I lose weight easily, I am naturally slim' or 'My life is full of great opportunites and lovely surprises' or 'money flows easily into my bank account, too fast for me to spend it!'. Write these out on pieces of paper and stick them up in places you will look at often: near the kettle, by the kitchen sink, on the bathroom mirror, and so on.
Here is the homework! Every time you observe yourself thinking the old, limiting thought, replace it with the new empowering one. I found that when I first did this (and I have pieces of paper posted around my kitchen as things change!) my internal dialogue began to default to the new thoughts after only TWO WEEKS!
Try it and surprise yourself. If you know anything about 'The Secret' or quantum mechanics, you will know that the energy of your thoughts attracts the things that have the same energy. In other words, if you think positively, positive things will happen for you.
Please try this - it is like magic! I would be delighted to hear from you if you find it as amazing as I did.
Love and light to you
Monday 13 October 2008
Slow Down!!
It seems to me that we in Western Europe are generally taking things too fast! I mean, we live our lives at top speed, racing here and there, generally forgetting ourselves and what it all means.
I received a speeding ticket through the post last week; my first in 25 years of driving. I was embarrassed, then angry, then I realised that the universe is telling me to SLOW DOWN! I have become so used to living 'on the edge', in other words, just leaving enough time to get to school if there is no traffic, and driving faster than I should to get there. The trouble with that is if someone gets in my way, I am stressed on two counts: I must drive this fast for my children to get to school on time, and I want to drive fast because I am used to it!
So, today, I left enough time to get where I was going without speeding, without becoming tense because someone wanted to drive slower than me, and without having that 'edgy' feeling that comes with stress. And a funny thing happened. I was relaxed, my children were relaxed, I was able to think straight and I arrived with a smile on my face.
We all need to take the time to enjoy the journey. We must live in the present, and enjoy each moment, instead of always thinking about the moment to come. It doesn't even exist yet! But we live in the Now.
Take time to relish where you are and the autumn leaves that are spiralling down around you. And if you are late, then be late with a smile on your face!
Take care
I received a speeding ticket through the post last week; my first in 25 years of driving. I was embarrassed, then angry, then I realised that the universe is telling me to SLOW DOWN! I have become so used to living 'on the edge', in other words, just leaving enough time to get to school if there is no traffic, and driving faster than I should to get there. The trouble with that is if someone gets in my way, I am stressed on two counts: I must drive this fast for my children to get to school on time, and I want to drive fast because I am used to it!
So, today, I left enough time to get where I was going without speeding, without becoming tense because someone wanted to drive slower than me, and without having that 'edgy' feeling that comes with stress. And a funny thing happened. I was relaxed, my children were relaxed, I was able to think straight and I arrived with a smile on my face.
We all need to take the time to enjoy the journey. We must live in the present, and enjoy each moment, instead of always thinking about the moment to come. It doesn't even exist yet! But we live in the Now.
Take time to relish where you are and the autumn leaves that are spiralling down around you. And if you are late, then be late with a smile on your face!
Take care
Wednesday 1 October 2008
A windy day......
I love the wind. It blows out old, stagnant energy and makes way for new, inspiration and creativity.
What is it that you have been wanting to do? What is it that would make your heart sing today?
How can you bring more of that into your life today?
Think back about something that you absolutely loved to do when you were a child. How could you bring some more of that child-like creativity, enthusiasm and time-lessness into your life? Perhaps you loved painting, or making models, or using plasticine? Take some time now to think about how you felt when you were doing whatever it was. Can you remember that blissful state where nothing else mattered except what your hands were doing right then and there? Can you remember the emptiness of your mind, the stillness of your being, when you were lost in the activity?
We all need some of that blissfulness in our lives, and many of us don't make enough time for it. Create a 'Bliss List' for yourself to pin up somewhere. When you have a spare 10 minutes, or when you are feeling a bit down, look at the list and pick something that will give you an instant lift; and instant bit of Bliss. Even the word sounds like soft, marshmallowy clouds - soft and delicious!
Have a blissful day!
What is it that you have been wanting to do? What is it that would make your heart sing today?
How can you bring more of that into your life today?
Think back about something that you absolutely loved to do when you were a child. How could you bring some more of that child-like creativity, enthusiasm and time-lessness into your life? Perhaps you loved painting, or making models, or using plasticine? Take some time now to think about how you felt when you were doing whatever it was. Can you remember that blissful state where nothing else mattered except what your hands were doing right then and there? Can you remember the emptiness of your mind, the stillness of your being, when you were lost in the activity?
We all need some of that blissfulness in our lives, and many of us don't make enough time for it. Create a 'Bliss List' for yourself to pin up somewhere. When you have a spare 10 minutes, or when you are feeling a bit down, look at the list and pick something that will give you an instant lift; and instant bit of Bliss. Even the word sounds like soft, marshmallowy clouds - soft and delicious!
Have a blissful day!
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